Learning and understanding the unspoken language of our mothers for fostering happy and united families.
Are you that child that felt like your mother loved your sibling more? That your mom had her favorite kids and you felt left all alone and neglected? Having to grow up very fast and work harder? Feeling like you had to work hard to please your mother?
The scenario painted above is very close to home, however today my focus is on the lessons I have learnt and what you can take from it if you feel caught up in the same kind of circumstances.
I have learnt that mothers silently believe in you, and they know you are stronger and you can do it. What they are doing is not favoritism, but they see the need to hold your sibling/s by the hand, because instinctively they know they are weaker, and need a little more support. I have realized that they do this without really thinking, it’s something that happens automatically guys… and fathers might be doing this too, but I think it’s huge with mothers…!
This has caused a lot of friction between siblings, between mothers and their kids (the ones I’m addressing now), causing the division in families.
In most cases, the “neglected” child is likely to do better in life than the other siblings (that were thought to be favoured). And there is a reason for that, it’s purely because your mother believed in you, your strengths, your capabilities…
Mothers have a challenging task of grooming and imparting lessons to develop successful kids, which they can feel proud of later in life. Because it is a challenge, they don’t always get the balance right or at least that is the case for those watching from afar. Learn and appreciate that a mother who is able to understand her children’s strengths and weaknesses, who dedicates her life to ensuring that her kids are better prepared for life and the one who will stop at nothing to make sure that even the weakest link is not allowed to be just that.
It took me a long time to realise, I hope you figure it out sooner. She always has your best interests at heart.